Dear Solana Vista Families,
I miss your children—their smiles, their joy and their hugs! I hope that this communication finds you healthy and well. I am a big believer in making lemonade out of lemons, and this pandemic is a great opportunity for all of us to focus on our health and families. Instead of being rushed and over scheduled, we now have the time to play board games, watch movies, read books, bake, write, do arts and crafts, have dinner together and many other positives that are often usurped by all the things that working and raising children throws at us.
Of course, all of this free time, brings other challenges for our children. The last couple of weeks have felt much longer than our typical weeks that seem to breeze by, and while the stress and uncertainty of this current situations is the main culprit, perhaps, too much free time for children and not enough structure is adding to the chaos of the days. Now that we have started distant learning, I think that this will help provide our students, your children, with structure and routine; something that we all need, but has probably been lacking over the last week when school and life became disrupted do to the Covid-19 virus school closure.
To help bring structure and control to students it might be helpful to help our children create a schedule of their day. This will help children feel empowered, more self-disciplined, proactive, and thus, reduce nagging from us, as parents! It’s a win-win!
The following schedule is one that can be downloaded, modified, and printed, to help keep things more predictable while you're at home with the kids. https://mommyhood101.com/daily-schedule-for-kids
Instructions for creating a daily schedule:
1. Create the routine chart together with your child. Invite them to list tasks and work/projects that need to be done. If something is left out, ask, “What about ____ (laundry, instrument practice, exercise, etc.)?”
2. Then ask, “What school work and other priorities do you want to complete along with your other responsibilities and activities?” Write down the responses.
3. After listing all the items, ask your child to rank order them to create the daily schedule, including the time allotted for each (see below).
4. If your child fails to follow the schedule, instead of reminding, let the routine chart be the boss: “What is next on your chart?”
5. Use the chart as a “To-Do” or checklist vs. rewards chart which takes away from your child’s intrinsic sense of accomplishment and capability.
Adapted by Lois Ingber, LCSW, CPDLT with permission from “Positive Discipline” authors Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott http://www.positivediscipline.com/
If you are finding that your child is still having difficulty with becoming more independent and intrinsically motivated, you may have to help them by building self-awareness. The following link - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X7sVN4-mcMnqzjAik5ymsm923v0Ha_7X/view was created by two parents who using what is called a Self and Match Chart where your child can assess (self-monitor) themselves during the various periods of the day and then you follow-up with what you observed. This is a tool that we sometimes use at school to help students develop this school.
One thing to keep in mind, is that children need frequent breaks. A rough rule of thumb is a child can stay focused on a task for two to five minutes times the year of their age. So, young kids should be able to focus between 4 and 20 minutes, possibly more, depending on the task. But this rule of thumb, just like any guideline for raising children, depends on the situation. "Attention span has to be contextualized," says Neal Rojas, M.D., a developmental behavioral pediatrician at the University of California, San Francisco. "Are we talking about the first thing in the morning, the middle of day, before naptime, before bedtime? I tell [parents] that they will see a variation throughout the day. Attention span is elastic." So be sure to build in plenty of breaks during the day.
Please know that we are here for your children and families. As the health and safety of our students is always our highest priority, our SEL Team have created the following survey in the event that your child needs support from our Guidance Assistant or Counselor: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1W_kmApqLxb5WOSzhp_xDmg3aE1XPbwf1ZXEZf1TPY7Q/viewform?edit_requested=true.
A Message from CDC: The Solana Beach Child Development Center (CDC) misses seeing your smiling faces before and after-school! Keep posted on the CDC website for information on Enrichment, Math League, Band, and Before and After School childcare. Our CDC Head Teachers are sharing some fun activities you can do at home on their CDC webpages.
A Beach Bash Update: Solana Beach Bash has been postponed. The adult-only event has been rescheduled for Friday, May 29, 2020 at 6:30 pm at Lomas Santa Fe Country Club. If you have already purchased tickets, but are no longer able to attend the event and would like a refund, please email mailto:email@example.com, and our parent-volunteers will work to refund your money. We do hope that you will plan to attend the rescheduled event as all proceeds from the event will go back into the Discovery Labs at both Skyline and Solana Vista, where our children are immersed in Science, Technology, Research, Engineering, Art and Math. Programs that truly make our schools so exceptional. Please visit https://solanabeachkids.ejoinme.org/main to purchase tickets.
Thank you for all you are doing to support your child during Distance Learning and all of your kind and positive emails in the past few weeks.
Principal, Solana Vista School